You want financial security. You want stability. You want to pay yourself well, build real savings, and use the advantages that come with owning a business.

You’re also afraid that the minute you start chasing the numbers, you’ll wake up one day and realize you rebuilt the same corporate culture you left… but now with your name on the door.

That fear isn’t entirely irrational. Once you get a big offer in front of you, it can be very easy to start bargaining with yourself -- even with the best of intentions.

Someone might offer you a lot of money, but the trade off is handing over more control than you’re comfortable with. Or a prospect might offer you legitimate prestige if you take them on as a client, but they want you to cut your rates “just this once” to a level that could put you in a serious bind.

These scenarios might seem like obvious non-starters from a distance, but without the right guardrails in place, that “No, thank you,” might not come so easily when they show up in real life.

So, how do you keep yourself from falling into the trap of saying “yes” to opportunities that will only fund your life by slowly hollowing out the core of what you’re trying to build.

This is one of those rare moments where, when I work with clients to build their strategic plan, we look to feelings first, rather than facts. 

Instead of beginning by asking my clients, “What do you want to achieve in the next 12 months?” or “What do you want your company to look like two years from now?” I ask:

“What are the non-negotiable pillars of your business?”

To define those pillars, I have my clients complete the following statements in as much detail as possible:

“Fairness” is a pillar I hear from a lot when doing this exercise with clients. “Equity” (in the human sense) is another. Those might resonate with you. You may have other things that matter to you. 

Whatever is on your list, be specific. 

If the only thing you can say right now is, “I don’t want to become the thing I’ve left,” that’s your sign you need to go deeper -- you can’t build a business on a foundation of avoidance alone. 

You need to name in the affirmative what it is you’re actually building and what you believe is worth protecting.

Once you have your non-negotiable pillars defined, they become your compass for all of the decisions you make inside your business. 

That means, when an opportunity comes along, you have to be honest with yourself:

“Does this align with our stated values?”

If the answer is clear yes, go for it. If it’s not, you stop. 

You don’t want to let a “maybe” with a big asterisk next to it trick you into making the wrong decisions. It’s not always easy though, because the offers that mess you up rarely show up on your doorstep looking like a villain. 

They look flattering. They look like relief. They look like, “This would solve a problem right now.” And if you don’t have a clear filter, you’ll talk yourself into things you wouldn’t normally choose -- especially when you’re tired, cash is tight, or the opportunity feels prestigious. 

If you want to add an extra insurance policy to this process, identify a trusted advisor as a “keeper” of your values and consult with them on big decisions. This is a great way to protect yourself from making decisions that would otherwise compromise your company’s identity.

Capitalism loves to defend itself, and it will fight you kicking and screaming if you try to run your business in a way that’s softer and more palatable. I don’t love this reality, and I know many of you feel the same way. But for right now, this is the system we have to operate within, and we can’t opt out. 

So don’t wait until you’re stressed, tired, or tempted to decide who you are. Decide now. Write your non-negotiables down. Treat them like a compass. Use them as your cultural operating system with everybody you interact with. 

And when the “helpful” opportunity shows up with the fine print attached, don’t negotiate with yourself in real-time. Check it against what you said mattered, and you act accordingly.

Because your goal isn’t to be perfect inside a flawed system. 

The goal is to keep your little bubble of the world as pristine as you can, while still achieving your goals -- and to build the kind of business you’re proud to live inside.

Ready to get started? Great, here’s what you do:

Need help defining your non-negotiables and a strategic plan for your business? Book a free 20-minute strategy session.

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